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		<title>Comment on more on obama by Jean</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13806</link>
		<author>Jean</author>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 22:32:30 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>As a minority and a woman, I know you can get crap for being either, one isn't worst or better than the other in my experience. And, even more, you get crap for even admitting you get crap which is why this is a tough issue for Barack and Hillary. There's a fine line between being able to acknowledge it and being slammed for acknowledging it and both Hillary and Barack have to walk that line.  I think, since both face one on the two, if your choice is between Barack or Hillary, it shouldn't be part of the decision process.

I am wondering why we've heard so little about Michele Obama. She seems like a great person on her own accomplishments.  And, I love Dennis Kucinich's wife.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As a minority and a woman, I know you can get crap for being either, one isn&#8217;t worst or better than the other in my experience. And, even more, you get crap for even admitting you get crap which is why this is a tough issue for Barack and Hillary. There&#8217;s a fine line between being able to acknowledge it and being slammed for acknowledging it and both Hillary and Barack have to walk that line.  I think, since both face one on the two, if your choice is between Barack or Hillary, it shouldn&#8217;t be part of the decision process.</p>
<p>I am wondering why we&#8217;ve heard so little about Michele Obama. She seems like a great person on her own accomplishments.  And, I love Dennis Kucinich&#8217;s wife.</p>
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		<title>Comment on barack obama by Jean</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/06/barack-obama/#comment-13805</link>
		<author>Jean</author>
		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 22:27:34 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Sara, this has had less mud-slinging, on the Democrats side, than normal. The Republican campaign has been pretty bad (LOL, Huckabee aside who said he's made an attack ad, decided not to show it, but showed it to all the major news organizations where it was shown repeatedly...for free. I'll bet it's on Youtube.).  But, with the Democrats, it seems that it has been tempered and when it has happened, the mud slinging itself has been attacked. This could change any day but it's been a nice change.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sara, this has had less mud-slinging, on the Democrats side, than normal. The Republican campaign has been pretty bad (LOL, Huckabee aside who said he&#8217;s made an attack ad, decided not to show it, but showed it to all the major news organizations where it was shown repeatedly&#8230;for free. I&#8217;ll bet it&#8217;s on Youtube.).  But, with the Democrats, it seems that it has been tempered and when it has happened, the mud slinging itself has been attacked. This could change any day but it&#8217;s been a nice change.</p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by Sara</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13776</link>
		<author>Sara</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jan 2008 16:34:40 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>I love your comment about, "unless you count sleeping with the president as experience" that made me laugh so hard and for a long time as well!

I agree with you about Obama, but again must admit I've not been following nearly as much as any of you probably, plus when I was growing up I just happen to meet Hilary when she was visiting friends in NY (Chelsea &#38; I had a mutual friend - at the time) and I thought she was a unfriendly bitch, course she was only the wife of a govenour at the time, maybe now that she's running for president she'd be more friendly, and again that sorta doesn't make me like her much either - that sorta only friendly when it's convient behaviour (NOT that that is a good judge of presidency either, but that's just my 2 pence from L'town)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I love your comment about, &#8220;unless you count sleeping with the president as experience&#8221; that made me laugh so hard and for a long time as well!</p>
<p>I agree with you about Obama, but again must admit I&#8217;ve not been following nearly as much as any of you probably, plus when I was growing up I just happen to meet Hilary when she was visiting friends in NY (Chelsea &amp; I had a mutual friend - at the time) and I thought she was a unfriendly bitch, course she was only the wife of a govenour at the time, maybe now that she&#8217;s running for president she&#8217;d be more friendly, and again that sorta doesn&#8217;t make me like her much either - that sorta only friendly when it&#8217;s convient behaviour (NOT that that is a good judge of presidency either, but that&#8217;s just my 2 pence from L&#8217;town)</p>
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		<title>Comment on barack obama by Sara</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/06/barack-obama/#comment-13775</link>
		<author>Sara</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jan 2008 16:27:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/06/barack-obama/#comment-13775</guid>
					<description>Well I must admit I've not been following all this political who-ha, but that's because it normally gets me really worked out, but I'm always glad to see when someone writes their opinions about them, since I'm not around in the states to get a "feeling" for any of them, reading others thoughts makes me feel a bit more in touch with what's going on but not overwhelmed as I'm sure most of the commercials are just mud slinging these days (or at least they use to be when I was state-side)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Well I must admit I&#8217;ve not been following all this political who-ha, but that&#8217;s because it normally gets me really worked out, but I&#8217;m always glad to see when someone writes their opinions about them, since I&#8217;m not around in the states to get a &#8220;feeling&#8221; for any of them, reading others thoughts makes me feel a bit more in touch with what&#8217;s going on but not overwhelmed as I&#8217;m sure most of the commercials are just mud slinging these days (or at least they use to be when I was state-side)</p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by christina</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13773</link>
		<author>christina</author>
		<pubDate>Wed, 16 Jan 2008 15:57:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13773</guid>
					<description>&lt;em&gt;hillary and obama have both served 3 years (so far) in the senate, edwards served a full six year term.&lt;/em&gt;

Hillary Clinton was elected to the U.S. Senate in 2000 and re-elected in 2006. So, actually, she has more NATIONAL experience than Obama (elected in 2004) or Edwards (elected in 1998, served one term).

And I'm totally sick of the racism vs. sexism crap that has permeated this race. Which is more pervasive? It's impossible to say. I know that as a white woman I have faced lots of discrimination in my life, both overt and subtle. But that doesn't make my suffering at the hands of sexism more or less heinous than the sufferings of people of color due to racism.

I admire and respect the three major candidates, and if I had to vote today, I would vote for Clinton. She does have the most experience. Being a First Lady is a lot more than "sleeping with the President." During her eight years as First Lady, she served as a virtual ambassador of the United States around the world and really was the first proudly feminist First Lady we've had since probably Eleanor Roosevelt. But I honestly wouldn't mind if Obama or Edwards got the nomination, though Edwards probably won't. And I think a Clinton/Obama ticket would be awesome.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>hillary and obama have both served 3 years (so far) in the senate, edwards served a full six year term.</em></p>
<p>Hillary Clinton was elected to the U.S. Senate in 2000 and re-elected in 2006. So, actually, she has more NATIONAL experience than Obama (elected in 2004) or Edwards (elected in 1998, served one term).</p>
<p>And I&#8217;m totally sick of the racism vs. sexism crap that has permeated this race. Which is more pervasive? It&#8217;s impossible to say. I know that as a white woman I have faced lots of discrimination in my life, both overt and subtle. But that doesn&#8217;t make my suffering at the hands of sexism more or less heinous than the sufferings of people of color due to racism.</p>
<p>I admire and respect the three major candidates, and if I had to vote today, I would vote for Clinton. She does have the most experience. Being a First Lady is a lot more than &#8220;sleeping with the President.&#8221; During her eight years as First Lady, she served as a virtual ambassador of the United States around the world and really was the first proudly feminist First Lady we&#8217;ve had since probably Eleanor Roosevelt. But I honestly wouldn&#8217;t mind if Obama or Edwards got the nomination, though Edwards probably won&#8217;t. And I think a Clinton/Obama ticket would be awesome.</p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by Jean</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13741</link>
		<author>Jean</author>
		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Jan 2008 19:55:38 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Looking at it from an electability stand point, Republicans, in general, aren't that happy with their choices.  Many seem to like Obama, though they might not like his views.  But, they hate Hillary. If the race were between any Rep candidate in the field and Obama, many might stay home from and not vote. But, if the race were for Hillary, they'd come to make sure she wasn't elected.  They'd unite just to ensure that she didn't get in.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Looking at it from an electability stand point, Republicans, in general, aren&#8217;t that happy with their choices.  Many seem to like Obama, though they might not like his views.  But, they hate Hillary. If the race were between any Rep candidate in the field and Obama, many might stay home from and not vote. But, if the race were for Hillary, they&#8217;d come to make sure she wasn&#8217;t elected.  They&#8217;d unite just to ensure that she didn&#8217;t get in.</p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by Cameron</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13663</link>
		<author>Cameron</author>
		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Jan 2008 18:29:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13663</guid>
					<description>I can see your point about why Hillary is divisive. She doesn't have a good image and she is very hated by a lot of people. This is true. And perhaps Obama does have a better shot at getting a similar agenda through congress because he doesn't have that reputation (at least not yet). And maybe that, in itself, is the reason to vote for him.

But I get so frustrated with this "Hillary is cold" argument. It plays right into the sexist double standard. I honestly believe that if Hillary had come across from the beginning as warm, touchy-feely, and sensitive enough to be moved to tears she would never have gotten as far as he has. She' be seen (whether this would be part of the public discourse, I don't know) as "too woman-y". She'd be considered way to sensitive and moody to be the commander-in-chief of our country. But when she acts the way she has seen necessary to get where she is she's considered a cold bitch. Obviously I can never prove that she wouldn't have gotten just as far without being so cold, but I do believe it in my gut.

And while I certainly don't like the idea that our first female president is only president because she's the wife of Bill, I wonder if that IS precisely why she is the first woman to make it this far. You're question is very relevant- why are the many many other women who have devoted their lives to public service not running for president? Maybe because this country isn't ready yet. Maybe we are only ready for this somewhat a-sexual wife of Bill who many people still love (and obviously others hate) because in the back of our minds we still feel like voting for her is voting for him. But maybe having her in the white house will be the catalyst for all those other women who don't have presidential coattails on which to ride to get into the office. Who knows.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I can see your point about why Hillary is divisive. She doesn&#8217;t have a good image and she is very hated by a lot of people. This is true. And perhaps Obama does have a better shot at getting a similar agenda through congress because he doesn&#8217;t have that reputation (at least not yet). And maybe that, in itself, is the reason to vote for him.</p>
<p>But I get so frustrated with this &#8220;Hillary is cold&#8221; argument. It plays right into the sexist double standard. I honestly believe that if Hillary had come across from the beginning as warm, touchy-feely, and sensitive enough to be moved to tears she would never have gotten as far as he has. She&#8217; be seen (whether this would be part of the public discourse, I don&#8217;t know) as &#8220;too woman-y&#8221;. She&#8217;d be considered way to sensitive and moody to be the commander-in-chief of our country. But when she acts the way she has seen necessary to get where she is she&#8217;s considered a cold bitch. Obviously I can never prove that she wouldn&#8217;t have gotten just as far without being so cold, but I do believe it in my gut.</p>
<p>And while I certainly don&#8217;t like the idea that our first female president is only president because she&#8217;s the wife of Bill, I wonder if that IS precisely why she is the first woman to make it this far. You&#8217;re question is very relevant- why are the many many other women who have devoted their lives to public service not running for president? Maybe because this country isn&#8217;t ready yet. Maybe we are only ready for this somewhat a-sexual wife of Bill who many people still love (and obviously others hate) because in the back of our minds we still feel like voting for her is voting for him. But maybe having her in the white house will be the catalyst for all those other women who don&#8217;t have presidential coattails on which to ride to get into the office. Who knows.</p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by jen</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13642</link>
		<author>jen</author>
		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Jan 2008 02:27:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<guid>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13642</guid>
					<description>there are a lot of things i disagree with about that article (besides the feminst boo-hooing), one being the idea that hillary is divisive because of her gender. hillary is not divisive because of her gender. she's divisive for the same reasons john kerry is/was divisive. in fact, though i never realized it before, she is kind of a female john kerry. she's seen by conservatives as part of the liberal elite, paranoid over republican conspiracies, willing to say or do anything (flip flopper!) to push through her liberal agenda. her personality is standoffish and cold -- you don't want to have a beer with her. and, like al gore in 2000, she suffers from her association with bill clinton, who conservatives hate with a passion.

these are the reasons conservatives (and a lot of liberals) don't like her. they don't see her as centrist, they see her as a radical liberal. regardless of what her actual political orientation is, if she's going to be able to unite rather than divide, she's going to have to gain the respect and confidence of those who don't agree with her, and hillary will never do that. it's not a matter of being centrist -- there is almost no difference between hillary and obama's politics as far as i can tell. it's all about the way they present themselves. that's why obama has a better chance of getting things done. it's not because HE has hope. he GIVE US hope because he can promote the same ideas hillary is promoting and do it in a way that gets people excited about his ideas, or at least doesn't piss them off as much as hillary would. when he talks, he sounds like someone with common sense and integrity. when hillary says pretty much the same thing, she sounds like a wonky shyster. look at george w. bush... as far as i can tell he was pretty much elected solely on his "beerabilty." for better or worse, personality is everything in national politics. it's hillary's personality (and her last name) that is divisive, not her gender.

as far as having our first woman president, i hope that our first woman president is a self-made woman who gets to the white house on her own achievements. not someone who rides her husband's coattails into national politics. do you know how many smart women have devoted most of their lives to public service? why aren't any of them running for president? the ONLY reason hillary is a viable candidate for president is because she is married to a former president. there is no way she'd be where is today if not for bill. and even if i'm wrong, and she would be where she is today without bill, the perception that she rode her husband's coattails into the white house seriously tarnishes her image as some great feminist hero.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>there are a lot of things i disagree with about that article (besides the feminst boo-hooing), one being the idea that hillary is divisive because of her gender. hillary is not divisive because of her gender. she&#8217;s divisive for the same reasons john kerry is/was divisive. in fact, though i never realized it before, she is kind of a female john kerry. she&#8217;s seen by conservatives as part of the liberal elite, paranoid over republican conspiracies, willing to say or do anything (flip flopper!) to push through her liberal agenda. her personality is standoffish and cold &#8212; you don&#8217;t want to have a beer with her. and, like al gore in 2000, she suffers from her association with bill clinton, who conservatives hate with a passion.</p>
<p>these are the reasons conservatives (and a lot of liberals) don&#8217;t like her. they don&#8217;t see her as centrist, they see her as a radical liberal. regardless of what her actual political orientation is, if she&#8217;s going to be able to unite rather than divide, she&#8217;s going to have to gain the respect and confidence of those who don&#8217;t agree with her, and hillary will never do that. it&#8217;s not a matter of being centrist &#8212; there is almost no difference between hillary and obama&#8217;s politics as far as i can tell. it&#8217;s all about the way they present themselves. that&#8217;s why obama has a better chance of getting things done. it&#8217;s not because HE has hope. he GIVE US hope because he can promote the same ideas hillary is promoting and do it in a way that gets people excited about his ideas, or at least doesn&#8217;t piss them off as much as hillary would. when he talks, he sounds like someone with common sense and integrity. when hillary says pretty much the same thing, she sounds like a wonky shyster. look at george w. bush&#8230; as far as i can tell he was pretty much elected solely on his &#8220;beerabilty.&#8221; for better or worse, personality is everything in national politics. it&#8217;s hillary&#8217;s personality (and her last name) that is divisive, not her gender.</p>
<p>as far as having our first woman president, i hope that our first woman president is a self-made woman who gets to the white house on her own achievements. not someone who rides her husband&#8217;s coattails into national politics. do you know how many smart women have devoted most of their lives to public service? why aren&#8217;t any of them running for president? the ONLY reason hillary is a viable candidate for president is because she is married to a former president. there is no way she&#8217;d be where is today if not for bill. and even if i&#8217;m wrong, and she would be where she is today without bill, the perception that she rode her husband&#8217;s coattails into the white house seriously tarnishes her image as some great feminist hero.</p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by Cameron</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13634</link>
		<author>Cameron</author>
		<pubDate>Sat, 12 Jan 2008 16:59:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Jen, thanks for the thoughtful and articulate response. I don't know that I could be equally articulate about my opinion. And, in fact, I don't even know yet that I am supporting Hillary over Obama. I am very torn. I am inspired by Obama but I am not convinced that he is particularly non-divisive. I don't know if it is pessimistic or realistic of me to think that his inspiration and hope are not necessarily going to get things done in congress. It is true that if I thought that being more centrist was not a criteria for success in the long run I wouldn't think twice about voting for Obama. I am moved by his message as was was by Dean's 4 years ago. 

Additionally, I am not convinced that the sex issue is any less significant than the race issue. I feel a lot like the woman on NPR. How can I not vote for the first woman president? But you know me, the freaky feminist :)

Anyway, since I feel like I am not articulate enough to communicate how I feel about the sex issue, I am linking to this article because I think it is very well written an interesting:

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/08/opinion/08steinem.html?ex=1200459600&#38;en=b89398531bea1916&#38;ei=5070&#38;emc=eta1</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jen, thanks for the thoughtful and articulate response. I don&#8217;t know that I could be equally articulate about my opinion. And, in fact, I don&#8217;t even know yet that I am supporting Hillary over Obama. I am very torn. I am inspired by Obama but I am not convinced that he is particularly non-divisive. I don&#8217;t know if it is pessimistic or realistic of me to think that his inspiration and hope are not necessarily going to get things done in congress. It is true that if I thought that being more centrist was not a criteria for success in the long run I wouldn&#8217;t think twice about voting for Obama. I am moved by his message as was was by Dean&#8217;s 4 years ago. </p>
<p>Additionally, I am not convinced that the sex issue is any less significant than the race issue. I feel a lot like the woman on NPR. How can I not vote for the first woman president? But you know me, the freaky feminist <img src='http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /><br />
Anyway, since I feel like I am not articulate enough to communicate how I feel about the sex issue, I am linking to this article because I think it is very well written an interesting:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/08/opinion/08steinem.html?ex=1200459600&amp;en=b89398531bea1916&amp;ei=5070&amp;emc=eta1" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/08/opinion/08steinem.html?ex=1200459600&amp;en=b89398531bea1916&amp;ei=5070&amp;emc=eta1</a></p>
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		<title>Comment on more on obama by Jean</title>
		<link>http://www.lifeoffbalance.com/2008/01/10/more-on-obama/#comment-13633</link>
		<author>Jean</author>
		<pubDate>Sat, 12 Jan 2008 16:33:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>I love Obama and agree w/ your assessment.  The Clinton campaign really bothers me. The experience thing that you mentioned (or as one journalist asked, does knowing how to work White House phones matter before entering office?), the way they're attacking Obama about his kindergarten homework on wanting to be president and his ambition, even Bill's talking about Obama's fairy tales and lies (Bill really needs to avoid talking about getting caught in lies...).  The campaign completely turns me off.  One thing I love about Obama is his appeal with hope and change.  For so long, after 9/11, too many Americans have been running around so afraid of everything, willing to give up civil rights just to "feel" safe, embrace torture, all the while cowering. I feel like Obama brings back what made America great--hope for the future and optimism.  We can't live as a partisan country and I think he can bridge the gap much better than Hillary.  I'll take naivity over cynicism.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I love Obama and agree w/ your assessment.  The Clinton campaign really bothers me. The experience thing that you mentioned (or as one journalist asked, does knowing how to work White House phones matter before entering office?), the way they&#8217;re attacking Obama about his kindergarten homework on wanting to be president and his ambition, even Bill&#8217;s talking about Obama&#8217;s fairy tales and lies (Bill really needs to avoid talking about getting caught in lies&#8230;).  The campaign completely turns me off.  One thing I love about Obama is his appeal with hope and change.  For so long, after 9/11, too many Americans have been running around so afraid of everything, willing to give up civil rights just to &#8220;feel&#8221; safe, embrace torture, all the while cowering. I feel like Obama brings back what made America great&#8211;hope for the future and optimism.  We can&#8217;t live as a partisan country and I think he can bridge the gap much better than Hillary.  I&#8217;ll take naivity over cynicism.</p>
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